Three Questions That Saved the Discussion
Once when I was in a role supporting a multi-market digital release I was facilitating a meeting that had quickly become circular and unproductive. Engineering was discussing technical dependencies, product was focused on feature completeness, and regional stakeholders were raising compliance concerns. All of this was being discussed at the same time, with people occasionally talking over one another. Each group was using different terminology and optimizing for different risks, which made it difficult to determine what decision actually needed to be made. The conversation kept expanding instead of converging. What to do?
I paused the discussion and reframed the session around three concrete questions: What decision are we making today? What constraints are non-negotiable? What options are truly on the table? I then captured each group’s concerns in plain language on a shared Google document, grouping them under timeline, compliance, and technical risk. This structure made overlaps and misunderstandings visible. For example, what product described as a “must-have” turned out to be deferrable if certain compliance conditions were met, and an engineering “blocker” was actually a sequencing issue rather than a hard stop.
By clarifying the decision point and separating assumptions from facts, we were able to align on a phased rollout that satisfied compliance requirements, preserved core functionality, and avoided unnecessary rework. The meeting shifted from debate to decision-making, and stakeholders left with a shared understanding of both the plan and the rationale behind it.
This illustrates, I hope, what having a project or program manager in the room can mean for a critical project discussion. Program and project managers have to lean in and participate actively to keep the discussion civil and productive, clearing up any confusion that arises.